Dental Crown
My husband killed himself on July 18th, in the middle of the summer, which is my favorite season, except it isn’t my favorite season anymore.
My husband killed himself on a Tuesday in the middle of the day.
My husband killed himself right after going to the dentist to get a dental crown replaced.
He woke up,
got dressed,
went to work,
and left work an hour or so later to go to his appointment.
And then he came home and he hung himself in our basement.
He woke up,
got dressed,
went to work,
and left work an hour or so later to go to his appointment.
And then he came home and he hung himself in our basement.
My husband texted me at 9 am that day.
I was in a meeting at work.
He said “Got my crown replaced. Feels much better now. See you at therapy.”
I was in a meeting at work.
He said “Got my crown replaced. Feels much better now. See you at therapy.”
According to the paramedics, by the time I found my husband’s body hanging in our basement around 2 pm, he had been dead for several hours. They said he probably hung himself between 10 am and 11 am.
My husband got a dental crown replaced,
was grateful that it felt better,
texted me to tell me that,
and then he came home and hung himself.
was grateful that it felt better,
texted me to tell me that,
and then he came home and hung himself.
I called the dentist's office two days later. I said "Did my husband actually come in to get his crown replaced?"
They said yes.
I said "Did he seem ok?"
They said yes.
Then my voice broke.
I said "My husband killed himself right after he got his crown replaced."
I said "My husband killed himself right after he got his crown replaced."
They said oh god.
Then we hung up.
Then we hung up.
My husband paid five hundred dollars for a dental crown he would wear for an hour.
And then he came home and hung himself.
Would you mind if i sharec your Blog? This may help so many families I know touched by suicide.
ReplyDeleteI don't mind at all.. please do.
DeleteWife's husband had been a chef, one of a small group who started a restaurant/brew pub. It went really well. A couple years went by. Restaurant life is a load of stress, many late nights... lots of hard partying people. He went back to some younger years/bad habits after their son was born.
ReplyDeleteHe could be a great guy, lots of fun, so personable, everyone said so... and also could choke his wife unconscious & throw her in a closet.
Best I've been able to find out over the years, this was not an isolated incident.
Went "to play golf" with a friend one Sunday; didn't call or come back till Monday evening, when he reappeared at the house, ransacked the place for drugs, then argued with his mother who'd come looking for him, then he shot himself in front of her.
My wife is as strong as the day is long (usually). She survived, with an 18 mo old son & a daughter (born Sept '01) on the way.
We met in '03, married in '04, had our own son in '06 (long story http://redhairblackleather.blogspot.com/).
Even after all these years, she will occasionally mention things from those days. I can only be there for her & be on the watch, all the time.
Hugs & so on to you & yours...
Thank you so much for sharing this. It sounds like your wife went through hell, and I know a fraction of what she must have felt and must still feel. It is hard when you are with someone, and you want things to be normal, and you try to make things more normal, and other people see things as normal, but they are not normal. You do a lot of internalizing and justifying the unjustifiable in your head.
DeleteSo glad your wife now has you. I am sure it can be hard for you both some days - that things will come up, and ghosts are still around, and that the past influences the present in big and small ways, but it sounds like you are listening and supporting, and that is incredible.
Sending love to you both.
I was a dental hygienist and a patient I knew casually (we both were from farming families) had a bridge put in. (A lengthy and costly procedure) One week later he shot himself. It still baffles me to this day. Going through the motions of everyday life and then just ending it. Your story has once again reminded me that you never know what struggles people are going through. Thank you for sharing your story, which has no doubt helped others who have read it.
ReplyDeleteYou are so informative and I really appreciate it, it's better to choose bridge or implants? I have heard both of these options from my dentist.
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